Monday, March 11, 2019

Decisions

 


First I have to thank all of you wonderful readers and friends that have emailed me, messaged, or left comments here on my blog and on Facebook.  You all have reached out with so much love, compassion and heartfelt words, and most of all prayers for my beautiful blue eyed boy Dougie.

We have gone through a lot of hard times since I wrote last on my blog. The most recent was a hospitalization on an emergency basis for an infection. Two days in ICU and 4 more days in the hospital.

This left Dougie in a very weakened condition.So much so that we had to come to terms with how we want to move forward. We have had lots of heartfelt conversations over the last 8 months about life and death. 

We have tried very hard to stay open and honest with each other. We have laughed and we have cried together. Some difficult decisions have had to be decided along the way and recently the inevitable decision had to be made.



As difficult as it sounds it was the only decision that could be made at this point in time. Dougie and me,along with our boys decided that it is time for Hospice.

He is done, he is tired of fighting, and weary. We gave it all we could, and now it is time for us along with our family to have some peace and comfort.

This is a very intimate time for our family and we are praying for peace and love to surround this precious man that so deserves to feel nothing but comfort, peace and love.

He spent his life giving so much to his family and even at this time we are what he thinks of first. He is a selfless, precious child of God.

What has happened and been happening the last 8 months is heartbreaking, but what has BEEN for our whole life together, is beyond wonderful. We have had a life together that is beyond blessed and we are both so grateful for every single second.

So now we get to have some more precious moments and only God knows the appointed time of Dougies departure from my arms and into the arms of Jesus.













 
 

29 comments:

Teresa Hatfield ~ Splendid Sass said...

Kathy sue,
I am praying hard for y’all, and you are in my prayer, friend.
Feel free to reach out at anytime.
Love,
Teresa

michele said...

In my devotions this morning, I read Henri Nouwen's words about how there are times we can be active participants in revealing God's glory, and there are other seasons when it's our turn to simply be the object of His glory. If it's that time to become the object - I only know our Loving Father will be there when our last breath here is taken and our first breath there begins. Thank you for the blessing of sharing your journey and welcoming the prayers of healing which we know are heard. Peace to you and yours, friend. xox

Unknown said...

I am thinking of you and your beautiful family at this time. I went through this with my mom. You are brave. Take care of yourself when you can. I wish I could do more, but you are in my prayers.

SHERRY HART said...

Kathy Sue I’m sitting here crying. For some reason I had no idea it was this bad. I’m so so sorry my friend....I can not imagine what you are going through right now but I hope you know how much you are both loved. My heart breaks for you. xoxo Sherry

Sissie's Shabby Cottage said...

Kathysue, this just breaks my heart and I'm so sorry for the difficult time you, your husband and your family are going through. It's a tough road to travel and as one who has been there with loved ones, I know how weary we become. Hospice is a wonderful organization and will give him the care and kindness that your family deserves.
Please know I'll be praying for you and your family. May God's Blessings bring you peace.
Love. Sissie

PS. Even though my last blog post was several months ago when I blogged about suddenly losing my brother, I have followed and read your blog. I haven't forgotten about you or the other bloggers that started around the same time we did. I don't know if I'll return to blogging, but I still feel the connection to you and other friends I've made along the way.

Merlin said...

Oh, my dear....I weep with you...and for you...Peace be With You and Yours. franki

Elizabeth Day said...

Thank you for posting this difficult to write update on your sweet Dougie. My heart breaks for you and your family, but I also admire your unending love and devotion to your husband. At some point, and obviously you have found that place, it is the most selfless thing to let God and our loved one work out the end time together. I pray for continued strength, peace and comfort for you and your family, Kathy. I pray for mercy for Dougie as God prepares him for his homegoing. There is no safer place to be than in God's will so I pray that all of you will continue to experience the assurance of being in the safety of His strong arms. If you have time you might draw visual strength from my Monday's blog.

Karen said...

Kathysue,
Your post brought tears to my eyes. My husband of 46 years has been in ill health and in and out of the hospital. I understand the difficulty of the time and my heart breaks for you and your family. May your sweet husband have longer than you might imagine and be at peace during his final months (years?).
Karen

John said...

Nothing can be said at times like this Kathy, but you and Doug are in my thoughts and prayers. Be strong, I know where your strength comes from -- Love to you and all of your family, John

Debra Phillips said...

Dearest Kathysue,
Your strength is evident, as is your overwhelming love for Doug, and while in deep grief you share messages of inspiration.

I have no words but to say I am holding you in my heart, and I am so so sorry.

debra

mary said...

Kathysue, my heart goes out to you. Several years ago, I lost the love of my life to this dreadful disease, so I understand how painful this is for you and your family. Time truly is the great healer, so you will not always hurt to the degree you are now, but it’s a process that happens in baby steps. So allow yourself to grieve however long it takes and be patient with yourself. A book that got me through some really hard times is Life After Loss by Bob Deitz. This book gave me comfort and hope during some very dark times - I highly recommend it. God bless you and give you strength through this very difficult time.

Rhoda @ Southern Hospitality said...

Kathy, I'm so very sorry to hear this latest news. Was so hoping for a miracle, but we all know that God doesn't promise to heal everyone who is sick, but He does promise to go through it with us. I pray much peace and calmness in these days that you will be facing and that the Lord will wrap you all in His loving arms as only He can do. There are no other words to say, but you are loved. With tears in my eyes, I wish you peace the most. You know where Doug is going and that's the best feeling of all. Life does not end when we pass from this earth and that's what we cling to as believers. xoxo

Sue said...

It is difficult to know the words to say. But I want you to know that over the years you have shared so much about your sweet husband that we feel we know you both. Your marriage sounds wonderful, you have been so blessed - and even now you continue to share your faith and hope and we are thankful for your testimony. Please know that you and your family are being held close in prayer and I know you will cherish this time together.

Pinky at Designs by Pinky said...

I pray for you both, every night, by name. I will continue. I send love, hugs and prayers for peace. We are going through something similar in that my Joe's brother has glioblastoma. He has had 2 craniotomies, and was in a trial for a new treatment but it hasn't worked. Now HE is facing where he wants to die. My/our hearts are broken. It is easy to say, "stay strong" but much harder to do. XOXO

Amenlady said...

Thank you Kathy, for this deeply personal journey and your transparency and sharing. I know God is with you all and has been, is and will be your strength, your peace and your joy. Doug is in His loving hands, no better place. I thank God for his life and commitment to the Lord, yo you and his beloved family. I pray for his comfort, joy and peace. Soon he will see His Savior Dave to fave and hear Him say: “we’ll done, my good and faithful servant,”. Be anxious for nothing, pray about everything and rest in His ability to exceed your expectations; exceedingly and abundantly in Christ. I love you and Doug and I’m praying daily for you. Press on in full assurance, that HE who has begun a good work in you shall be faithful to complete it ❤️🙏🏼

Unknown said...

Dear Kathysue,

I sit here crying as I read this post. I am so very, very sorry that you, Doug, and your family are going through this most difficult time.
From one who also has been through this, know that God is faithful to comfort us and give us peace through these very difficult times.

Hospice is wonderful...try to get rest yourself while Hospice nurses are caring for Doug. Thank you so much for giving us an update, and know that we are continuing to lift you up in prayer to our precious Father. Louise

Marty@A Stroll Thru Life said...

I have been in constant prayer for you and your entire family. I know this is beyond hard, but you are all showing such grace and peace that only the Lord can provide. My heart aches for you in such deep and profound ways. God Bless.

Shirley@Housepitality Designs said...

I continue to pray for you and Doug. My heart is truly broken.

Unknown said...

Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Lady of the Manor said...

Dear Kathysue, my heart hurts for you all. Please know I’m keeping you all in my prayers each day. Zenda

Diane Haynie said...

Kathysue It is amazingly brave and selfless to continue to share your stories with those of us who know you only through your blog. But as many have said, over the years I feel I know you and have an online "kinship" as we are similar in age and in our love for our husbands and we both live in California. I pray for you and Doug every night and was so sad to hear this but hospice is a wonderful organization that can help both Doug and your family during and after this time so I encourage you to take advantage of all the services they offer. They were very helpful to my family when we lost my father. Peace be with you and your family.

Cathy said...

My heart is aching for you and I am so sorry for what you are going through. The hardest day of my life was the day my husband went home to heaven. My prayers are with you Kathysue. May you feel comfort in the days and months ahead.

Our Hopeful Home said...

I haven't ever left a comment but now I think it's time. What the two of you have had is so special and blessed by God. I think you know that. You are strong and resilient and will get through this. Thank you for sharing your journey. You and your Dougie will remain in my prayers. xo Kathleen

Judy B said...

So sorry, Kathysue. Wishing you the peace and comfort you are hoping for. Continued thoughts and prayers for you and your beloved husband.

Shelia said...

Oh, dear Kathy, you and Doug are in my prayers. You have ministered to me with your post today and your complete trust in God. He has you and Doug in His mighty hands. I'm so sorry this is happening but I know it's life and I do know what our future will be with Jesus.
Blessings,
Shelia

Carla Aston said...

I’m so sorry to see this is so close, Kathysue. How difficult this must be, I can’t imagine myself yet. Please know I’m thinking about you and your husband and saying prayers. Thank you for sharing all this. Big hugs, Carla

Rollie said...

I had not read your blog for some time ( a new computer and lost friends). I am so sad for what you all are going through. I pray for all of your family. Gayle on Rollie's acct. love and prayers.

Mary said...

Oh Kathysue. I had no idea you & your family were going through this. I took a break from social media for a while.
I wish I had the words to help you feel better. But know that I’m praying for you & your wonderful husband.

sharon said...

Sending prayers for your precious family🙏🙏🙏